| He began his story with telling that when he was in college, and struggling just to get a date, let alone get laid right and left, he knew one guy who ALWAYS had great looking women around him. That guy seemed to know practically every girl on campus, and they'd always come up to him and give him hugs and kisses. The man assured that that guy was not a coke dealer or a pimp. The more so he was an evangelist.
Now, that man is certainly not advocating Jesus Freakery as the way to get your weenie wet. But he persuades that anyone might take a few lessons from this guy. He said that he would watch him go to work on women who were absolute strangers and within a few minutes, they'd be laughing and punching him playfully, sometimes giving him hugs. He also said, that if it weren't for the Lord, Chris would have been the big stud on campus.
He asks what was his secret on the way for getting laid like a bandit. But the man was sure, that the affinity and warmth of that guy made women feel ADORED. Also, that man didn't come on all hot and heavy, like a hungry wolf on the prowl. But he came on with all the friendliness and fun at his disposal - as if these strange women were long lost friends that he really loved.
The most important thing is that they bought it! Because even the chickiest woman, who is very uptight about being a sex object, always wants to feel loved and special. So, this guy could make these girls to feel as if they were long lost friends only by the warmth in the tone of his voice and his smile.
You have to think this way- even the nastiest person finds it hard to react fearfully or angrily to someone who makes them feel loved and appreciated.
He suggests you make this AS IF principle part of your bag of tricks. He gives everybody the advice that the next time you approach a woman who is making you burst out of your pants with lust, try putting aside the lust and turning on the warmth.
He added that conveying warmth and affinity isn't so tough - you just have to think of how you look and sound when you see a niece or nephew, or even a pet that delights you. He assures that he is not suggesting baby talk as a way of scoring babes. He is trying to give you an example of where it's natural for you to behave the way he’d like you to try behaving with women.
You know, t he important principle to apply here is that THE MEANING OF YOUR COMMUNICATION IS THE RESPONSE IT GETS. The man believes, that i f you use a tone of voice or a facial expression that makes women fearful or suspicious, then no matter how clever your words are, but the message you convey to her is that she should be afraid and suspicious of you.
You have to take into attention, that i f voice tone and physiology (and again he do es n't mean your appearance per se, but rather your posture and facial expressions) are so crucial in how women react to you, then there's aquestion what is the key to producing voice tone and physiology? You see, y our belief and expectation about your outcome.
The man also mentioned, that in case you believe you are going to get rejected then you are either going to convey fear, and make her fearful or else you are going to try to beat her to the punch and act so obnoxious that she rejects you right off, so you don't have to wait too long in suspense for your negative prediction to come true. He thinks that y ou just want to get it over with quickly so you actually produce the humiliation that you believe you cannot avoid.
But despite this fact, the man thinks that if you act as if you truly were someone who everyone liked and received warmly, then that warmth is what your tone and physiology will convey, and that's the response you will get, nine times out of ten. He added that he's not saying you'll get laid with everyone you approach, but seldom will you have a nasty experience either. But he alsothinks that any woman who doesn't respond positively to warmth and affinity is seriously sick and should be avoided at all costs anyway.
there's one PRACTICE EXERCISE that may help you :
It may seen a bit silly, but the creators of this exercise are sure, that it does work It is to help you to get laid like crazy. First of all, you should remember some words to the pledge of aligance. You can stand and then put your hand over your heart if you so choose.
You have to pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States of America, and to the Republic for which it stands, one nation, under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all.
First of all, you should practice saying these words very loud, saying them with all the warmth and friendliness you can muster.
Then you should practice saying them out loud as if you thought they were the funniest thing in the world and you might crack up laughing at any moment.
The author is persuaded, that you are completely sure, that you feel a bit silly practicing saying these words(and if someone should catch you they can think you've joined the John Birch Society) and it seems weird. But he says that you have to remember - that it isn't so much that you say to a woman, but your tone of voice when you say it.
Remember, getting her attention is one of the most important things for her to like you. The man also mentioned, that he has a brother who's in advertising - he writes newspaper and magazine ad copy. the man says, that once he watched him at work, and he sat for about three hours and then wrote one sentence! only one...
Then the man asked his brother why he took so long time on one sentence and his answer stuck with him. He said, that it was that first sentence, that determines whether women even read the rest of the ad. Just l ook at meeting women like an ad man who's writing copy for a newspaper ad. Inthis way, m aybe one out of a hundred readers is actively looking for the product you are trying to sell, and they will read your whole ad no matter what the headline says.
But t he rest of the readers could care less. Because t hey are busy flipping pages, trying to get to the comics section or the sports page. They will only stop if something grabs their attention.
So it is with the average chick. You may be sure, that i n a few lucky situations, your looks alone will snag her. But unfortunately, the rest of the time you won't have much chance of selling your product unless you grab her attention and grab it very fast. The author also noticed that he knows, that you want to grab something else, but that comes later.
So, here one group of men has represented the best ways to grab a girl's attention. You have to k eep them in mind as you read the next few chapters.
- Humor
- Appealing to her curiosity
- Putting an unusual or unexpected twist on an old, cliche pick-up
- Role playing
- Faking like you already know her
- Appealing to her ego
- Showing outrageous balls or guts
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Friendly feelings / warm and friendly
